Faith, Family, Life

The Negligence of “13 Reasons Why”

This is such a profound insight on the movie “13 Reasons Why” I had to reblog this.  I would like to add my own thoughts as well.

I have not watched the entire series…I can’t.  Beauty Beyond Bones is much stronger than I.  I have watched excerpts, and read many synopsis and reviews.  It’s horrid.

Our Dad committed suicide 18 years ago.  Being a survivor of suicide I have another aspect I wish to share.  I fully respect “Beauty Beyond Bones” insight that troubled souls need to talk to someone and there IS a way out…I totally agree.  However, I also want to expand on an aspect “13 Reasons Why” did not address when you are in that moment you don’t think about that.  You can’t.  Suicidal people usually are wracked with depression, anxiety, etc.  I know the series is more pointed toward blaming others, yet not all suicidal people do so; they blame themselves.  I myself, while I may not have issues with suicide, do struggle from time-to-time with depression.  And when I am heavily hit with the wave, there is no ability to reach out for help.  It’s not that simple.  At this stage in my life I do recognize the signs and am able to make myself get out, walk, talk, connect with someone.

When Mom passed away, our Dad obviously went into a deep depression.  We did everything we could think of.  We visited…often…we talked on the phone…we helped him…we taught him practical tips for living alone.  We were there.  Of that, I have no doubt.  Dad was seemingly doing all the right things, visiting with friends, resuming work, going out for supper.  Dad was also saying the right things; those things we were taught to listen for.  “Are you eating, Dad?”  “Yes, I cooked myself a steak!”  Great!  “Are you getting out, Dad?”  “Yes, I went for supper with….”  Great!  I talked to Dad about his faith, and relying on God to help him.  We thought everything was going swimmingly, and then a few days after another visit and phone calls he took his life.  In the end…when someone has decided to follow through, they do.

Beauty Beyond Bones post also states, “It is no one’s fault.”  And she’s absolutely right.  It isn’t.  I love her post, and only wanted to add my thoughts as I have friends and family who have lost loved ones to suicide, and many, many, did not ‘blame’ anyone, but rather feel so inadequate in themselves they truly believe the world and their families would be better off without them.  Unfortunately, as Beauty Beyond Bones states, “and everyone is left to put the pieces back together.”

“Just A Little Something” from my heart today.


“13 Reasons Why.”

The Selena Gomez – produced Netflix show that remade the YA fiction novel by the same name.

The topic? Teenage Suicide.

The “13 Reasons” refer to the 13 cassette tapes the victim, Hannah, left behind, explaining why each of the 13 people on the tapes were to blame in why she took her own life.

I didn’t want to watch it. Clearly, this is not a light subject matter, and not particularly something I wanted to watch alone in my studio apartment in New York. But given my affinity for Justin Bieber, and as a result, his first love, Selena Gomez, I wanted to see what she produced.

And well, after watching all 13 episodes in less than 48 hours, I have some thoughts. Strong ones.

Suicide is never the answer. It should never even be an option. Let’s get that right out of the way from the…

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2 thoughts on “The Negligence of “13 Reasons Why””

  1. One of the best descriptions I’ve read of what it’s like to be in that horribly deep, suicidal depression is that the person’s own mind is trying to kill them. It lies to them, it tells them that they are inadequate, or that the suffering is so massive and so awful and will never change, it tells them that there is no hope, and then it tells them that the only way is to end it all. It’s heartbreaking and I think you did all the best things, being there as much as possible and doing whatever you could, looking out for any warning signs. It’s a very scary thing, depression, because it is internal. I sincerely hope that this show raises awareness and increases good conversation, although from what many have said so far it doesn’t seem to be sending the right messages on its own.

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