Family, Funnies, Life

High Tea

Wow…time flies! It’s been awhile since I’ve blogged, I know.   It seems life happened.  😊 Ward’s Mom came for a 2-week visit, which was very lovely…although the weather was less than something to be desired. It basically rained for 2 weeks, with about 2 ½ days of sunshine where we could actually play in the yard. Mom is like me, she loves to play in the yard.  Unfortunately, I still had quite a bit of hard, physical yard work to do, so I wasn’t quite ready for the ‘play’ part…which is planting in my mind.  Mom is 74, and while that is not old and she is more than capable, somehow removing landscape fabric which is covered with 4-8 inches of dirt on a steep bank, is not something I should ask my mother-in-law to help me with…just sayin’.

One fun thing we did was attend ‘High Tea’ at a Restaurant here, which was a great experience.  Quite a ‘girly’ thing to do (somehow, I can’t see my husband wanting to go to ‘High Tea’ with me), in a very relaxing, ‘shabby chic’ atmosphere.  Bethany and I have gone before, and I thought it might be something Mom would enjoy, which she did. We had to google the etiquette involved for High Tea, and I learned a few things.

High Tea
Traceycakes – our ‘High Tea’ afternoon


Firstly “…for the more privileged the term is ‘Afternoon Tea’, or ‘Low Tea’ where it became the bridge between meals because many wouldn’t eat their evening meal until maybe 8 pm.  Afternoon or Low Tea became a meal in itself, accompanied by delicate savouries, usually cucumber or egg sandwiches (with the crusts removed and cut into small triangles, or fingers), scones (with clotted cream and jam), fruits, and of course, a delectable sample of sweets.  Generally, this was served in the ‘Sitting Room’, ‘Parlour’, or ‘Library’, served amongst coffee and side tables; thus, low tables, or ‘Low Tea’.  The term ‘High Tea’ was coined more for the servants, or working class, as their meal was served at a regular or dining table.  The menu for High Tea was similar but added biscuits, or bread and butter, and more savoury items such as lamb, or ham, as this could very well be the last meal of the day for this class.”  ( and

We also learned it is not required nor proper to raise your pinkie while drinking tea…who knew?? There is a bit of a mixed controversy regarding this aspect, where ‘raising the pinkie’ was more to assist in ‘balancing’ the fine china teacup…makes sense.  Also, you do not cut your biscuit or scone in half and slather it with jam or cream, but rather, you tear off bite size pieces, then apply the jam or cream, or both (this also seemed to differ from place to place whether it was jam first, or cream first, or both…basically the consensus we came to was it didn’t matter, so we used both in either order).

Tracey Cakes
Your High Tea is served on these lovely tiered trays.


We were not required to adhere to each etiquette, although we did attempt to be civilized.  Of course, as always there was an incident, and this time it wasn’t me!  Poor mom, she was trying to eat a scone/biscuit-y/crumpet-like item (can you tell I can’t remember what it was…it just wasn’t like any one of those items, but an amalgamated version of all) which seemed to have many divots, which had been dusted with icing sugar.  The divots were a nesting place and stored an exorbitant amount of icing sugar, and with every bite she was ensconced in this cloud of icing sugar…which also ended up on the table…and her fingers…and her lips…and her pants. 😊 She was trying so hard to be neat and tidy, but it was totally impossible and said, “I guess you can’t take me to High Tea!”  We assured her no one could have eaten that in a neat manner; ours were lightly dusted, Mom’s was a snowstorm.  It was no big deal, we laughed and brushed her off and went on our way window shopping…full and happy and…dusty.

This is no where NEAR the amount of icing sugar Mom had.


‘Just A Little Something’ I experienced…and learned.

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